Yesterday deleted the Facebook app from my phone to stop scrolling and wasting my time. Noticed that scrolling was like a slot machine, where I get dopamine from the expectation of the novelty. Expectation. That is counter productive because I have never been satisfied with this activity. Losing at times 7 hours of my time on it. Including watching interesting unplanned videos on YouTube.
I don’t want it anymore. I realized that there is nothing that I win with it. Nothing. I need a conscize review of current affairs. I can do it once a week following checked and reliable sourses. I don’t need daily presence online. I can keep my pages in perfect activity through batch publishing. I don’t know why would I want the social media anymore.
The downsides of being addicted to it from the other side have caused me productivity. I have not produced the products and projects that I wanted and with the speed I wanted due to this addiction. I was afraid to miss out on something and not being relevant enough to serve my audience and create positive influence. But staying in social media did not make me niether relevant nor I have made any positive influence.
Today I feel happy. Happy that I am free. Few times I have taken the phone responding to the impulse to scroll, but immediately remembered my decision to quit scrolling once and for all. It is a principle. I don’t scroll because of how the social media work today. Advertisement, low value content, out of the context.
Here are 10 things about me I probably haven’t told you, and # 6 was a secret till today.
Here we go
1. I have started learning 8 languages, and 6 of them I didn’t take too far.. Never progressed with these ones:
– Arabic & French – Love the sound, just wanted to capture some basics,
– Ivrit – That was when I was looking for my vocation in school, I thought maybe I should focus on different languages,
– French & Spanish – wanted to add value to myself for job opportunities
– Italian – I was 18 and stupid and thought the Italian guy would propose.. thanks God he did not and I speak Greek instead
2. My Granny on father’s side was blind, but she was very strong and confident, so I never thought of her as a person with special needs. I adopted her confidence in myself, despite all downsides, I always knew there was a way, whatever happened!
3. My first job was at a furniture studio where I repaired old furniture with my friend (also a young girl). We did a full refurbishment of soft furniture pieces like armchairs and any type of sofa. Since then, I know I can be good at any job I choose.
4. I discovered entrepreneurship when I was 13. I was designing and sewing clothes for Barbie dolls, later I was selling snacks and beer on the street, and then I moved to candies and chewing gums (small items had a higher margin profit). Also, I was trying to hide my identity so that my classmates wouldn’t recognize me. Although I loved the feeling of winning in this area and doing well, I was ashamed of having the need for additional money. As my classmates were from families with full wallets.
5. As a teenager, I was dreaming of adopting children. I don’t know where this desire came from, as I hadn’t met by then someone who had adopted or someone who had been adopted. I have no idea what influenced this. I literally have seen it in a dream.
6. I stole a pig from the school in the second grade. Not the real one. We had little plastic pigs to learn to count to 20. We had to embark on a school excursion to a museum with the class, and the teacher had forgotten me and locked me in the classroom. I had to wait 3 hours for them to come back. I needed to pee, and I was struggling to stay still because of this . So I opened the teacher’s closet to get distracted and decided to compensate myself with a small gift. When the teacher came back, I did not complain or cry; I was happy. The next year, younger pupils had to learn counting to 19 only.
7. I had a natural talent for drawing since I was little. My mom tried to help me develop it and took me to the studio. But I was not accepted due to my age. Later, I had other interests and never came back to that studio. But I envied kids who did. I thought my drawings were better; however, I wanted to know the pro techniques.
8. I started my book writing career at the age of 11-12 when the physics teacher asked me to create an illustrated brochure about fire security. And I did. My 30 pages of A4 illustrated text instructions for kids won the competition between schools. I got my first “Sharp” calculator as a prize. I wasn’t told it was a competition.
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9. I had an obsessive compulsive desorder from childhood till my 33 year. This disorder negatively impacted my personal and professional life. I healed it myself through the literature and conscious application of invented individual techniques for a few years. I simply couldn’t afford to work with a professional therapist. When I share with professionals the symptoms and methods I used to heal, they freeze in awe. Since then, I don’t understand why other people can’t do the same
10. I had such a minimalistic lifestyle in my 20s that I could pack my bags within 30 minutes and be ready to depart to another country on a contract when my agent called with an urgent invitation. My luggage was simple and light, and I was free.
PS: I have just remembered that I also learned German in school )
For the last two years, I have been perfecting my 20-to-the-top training that helps people to become public figures from 0!
What was not working for me is that the training takes time.. like months and even more than a year. And I could not onboard people on it any time I wanted, because every step is connected with the previous one.
For example, you can’t run the YouTube channel successfully without understanding scripting.. You learn the basics of scripting in the section focusing on Social Media Content. You can’t record your course without understanding the problem solutions methodology, which is part of the Product Design course of the same program.. and it turned out to be a bottleneck for me, not allowing me to take in new students.
But now I have figured out: since any step is connected to another one, the program should run in a cycle.. so people can onboard at any stage.. For example, in September, we start book writing. Why not onboarding at this stage and learn the rest later?
Are you getting me? You can board with any new module every 2 or 3 months! I think this is genius, as usual
I have never dreamed of becoming a coach – I despised the idea of taking money to help out people, till one day I realized that:
The unpaid advice has no value in people’s eyes
Diary of The Coach – Kate Koronis
So sad that after asking for advice people rarely did what I advised them to do.
This was really frustrating.
It felt like a waste of time.
I felt devalued. It impacted my self-esteem.
It inspired my action.
I decided to not allow people to use my time without actually applying the advice.
Making them pay for advice felt like this would motivate them to act upon it.
I created my first coaching offer back in 2020 and got 10 clients who paid forward for coaching sessions within the first week. All the following month was booked!
I was inspired! But… I was inspired and excited all the month I was coaching. My students were excited too. That was exactly what they needed. However – No one actually did what I taught.
Waste of time, right? At least I was paid.
Still this outcome brought frustration and I stopped doing coaching for a wholeyear.
You see:
Coaching without having results to show – is unsustainable business
Diary of The Coach – Kate Koronis
If you can’t show the results of your coaching:
Who will be willing to investtime and money in your coaching sessions?
How will you have the courageto sell something that does not help?
Despite all my efforts, it did not work well. Imagine that:
some students were sleeping during the session and
one person just talked all 10 sessions about what he wanted to do.
I fell into a trap that, as I found out later, was caused by common misconceptions about the coaching business.
Let’s discuss what are the beliefs out there about coaching that is misleading or not quite true:
People believe that coaching is easy
People believe that coaching is easy. Because of this belief, I have not managed my energy properly.
I allowed to book as many as 5 one-hour back-to-back sessions a day 5 days a week. As a result, I:
Lost my voice after a month of constant talking
I found out in my 40s what a haemorrhoid means as a result of intensive sedentary work
And more (I can talk in more detail about my challenges of planning in another post)
So you can see that coaching is not easy.
For a successful coaching career, you need to have a good time management strategy and life–work balance
Diary of the Coach – Kate Koronis
As you may know by now, I was not able to continue at such a pace after 1,5 months. I had to change something.
Another common misconception is that it is just sharing your knowledge in a specific area.
Coaching is just sharing your knowledge
Sharing your knowledge is not what makes people have results. So if you package your knowledge nicely, create packages and sell it it does not mean people will be able to follow it.
I have purchased some courses myself without ever touching them.
The truth is that Life happens:
Circumstances,
Mental state (lack of motivation),
Lack of skills in time management and learning process…
And many other factors impact the ability of your clients to have results.
It is not only about sharing knowledge.
Coaching is creating the environment where the growth of your client is possible
Diary of The Coach – Kate Koronis
Another misconception is that you can start a coaching business because you have an idea
Anyone can start a coaching business
I do believe that anyone can coach. But it does not work like that: Veni-Vidi-Vici – You came, You saw, You won.
Coaching requires you to build systems for your clients.
The environment we spoke about above is about a proper system being in place that will allow your people to achieveresults.
I have seen many coachingbundles advertised in my Facebook feed that include Coaching tools. Those tools are the elements of the system. But the system is much more than tools.
Without the system, your coaching will be frustrating and very difficult. The system is what allows you to get predictable results. It has such elements as:
Support
Pacing
Environment
Reminding
Reporting and more
To conclude on the misconception: “Anyone can start a coaching business” – here is the takeaway
To start a coaching business become a person of Systems
Diary of The Coach – Kate Koronis
Let me summarize the main concepts I have learned and that I wish had known before starting the coaching business
Lessons Learned
Coaching has to end with clients’ results – otherwise, it won’t sell
Your coaching time has to be balanced – don’t kill yourself
Coaching is more than sharing knowledge – it is like being also a psychologist
Coaching is the ability to create and maintainsystems for your clients – you can’t do it with only your enthusiasm
I am happy I did not give up and I have managed to bounce back and build my coaching program which I run successfully for a year now.
. So I opened the teacher’s closet to get distracted and decided to compensate myself with a small gift. When the teacher came back, I did not complain or cry; I was happy. The next year, younger pupils had to learn counting to 19 only.
