by Kate Koronis | Sep 24, 2025 | Featured, Write-up
Sometimes I wonder: how is it even possible for some people to survive if they go with no life vision day after day, week after week, year in, year out? Desiring something great, but unable to achieve it, because of vanity.
How do they survive? Their days are busy with so much stuff that they can’t take a breath. Because of this vicious cycle, their bodies are wearing out. Only on the sick bed do they start thinking of things bigger than themselves. If they are lucky enough to stay there and have some rest.
How do they survive? They owe everyone attention, answers, help, responsibilities, love, and appreciation. They invest in everyone’s lives. They never treasure their own.
How do they survive? No proper rest, no quiet place, no time to think, recalibrate, change the strategy, change the approaches. They just run.
How do they survive? They eat, consume, they need more food, more things, a better coat, a better car, a bigger house, more money, more loans and mortgages. They can’t be satisfied.
How do they survive? They care about what everyone thinks, and they give whatever other people want. They can step on their values to just align with other people’s plans for their life. They never resist. And if they do, it is because everyone does it.
How do they survive? No happiness, no peace, no fulfilment, no contempt. Just temporary enjoyment from mere things that will vanish tomorrow.
How did I become a survivor?
by Kate Koronis | Sep 17, 2025 | Featured, Write-up
Is it a secret that we are programmed on what to watch? And this is dangerous.
Have you ever noticed that we are instructed and guided by algorithms on YouTube and by program directors on TV on what we are going to watch? I bet you have. Even on a subscription model, like Netflix, you are guided by proposed videos. We are been programmed.
We are not making a choice. You might think that you do, because you are picking just one video from the variety, and you call it a choice. The reality is, if your video consumption is not aligned with your life’s goals and mission, you are not holding the steering wheel. You are a passenger.
The word passenger comes from Old French “passager ” – meaning passing, transitory.
People who are creating video content that we watch think less of where they will take you with their video, and more of how to increase their views or sell something to you. They might not even know that their videos are like a transport, that transitions you from one place to another. The funny part is that most of the viewers are not sure where they are going, so going anywhere is fine.
I love this scene from Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland where Alice meets the Cheshire Cat. Alice was puzzled by the choice of roads to take. So, she asks the Cat:
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where—” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
“—so long as I get somewhere,” Alice added as an explanation.
“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”
When we don’t care much which way to go, we will get somewhere if we walk long enough. And long enough means time. You will use a lot of time in your life to get somewhere.
But let us stop here for a minute and think: how much time are we talking about? For the past 3 years, I have been sure I have consumed approximately 5 hours a day on the bench watching videos. In 3 years, it is 5,475 hours. Now, where did I get with those hours invested in watching?
I assure you, I was not watching funny cats or soap operas. I watched what I call educational content: podcasts on success in different areas of life, political opinions, something inspirational, and less of tutorials. I thought those were productive videos. And if I had a product coming out of those 5K hours, then we all could agree that the watching time was productive. Instead, the videos just helped me to transition myself through life into “somewhere”.
No results to show for where I invested my time. I do have some political opinions, and I do have some understanding of those topics I have been interested to learn more about. But nothing in particular. Little bit here, little bit there. Collecting peanuts of positive results from my time investment.
Last summer, things changed. In the mentorship program of Dr. Sunday Adelaja, I had a task to watch a series of teachings on faith. Not that I was interested in the topic much, but the program is a program. So I watched approximately 10 videos until my perspective of my life totally changed.
I have taken so much value out of these videos that my days have stopped passing unnoticed. Every day brings me results in the areas where I pursue outcomes of my efforts. I was amazed by the impact.
It made me think: why would I spend time watching anything that does not have such a positive influence on my life? It also got me thinking of what influence I actually want to have.
Where do I go?
Where do I want to arrive?
And what content will take me there?
After taking some time to recalibrate my life’s focus, I came to the conclusion that watching habits have to abide by specific rules. My rules. Because it is my life and I am the one to decide which algorithms will govern it. Here are the rules.
Scrolling is a No-No
Goal-oriented people don’t wander anywhere to get somewhere. Scrolling is wandering. Like a social media slot machine I wrote about earlier. Stop scrolling. This has to be a one-and-forever decision: “From now on I don’t scroll. Full stop”.
Just like with any addiction, the scrolling habit can’t be negotiated. Thoughts like:
• I’ll scroll for the last time
• I’ll scroll just a few minutes, hours a day
• I’ll scroll only on Sundays
• I’ll scroll only if I am stuck in the queue with nothing to do
Cut it off.
There should not be “I’ll scroll” anymore.
I know it sounds radical. And maybe you feel like it is too much, or maybe your profession is somehow connected to being up to date with platforms. I know. I am a marketer. I need to understand how algorithms work. I need to know what is in the timeline. But the cost of 5K hours in 3 years is too high. I’d better find other ways of being up to date with the system I use for my professional goals. Same in your case. Think of the cost and ask yourself if you are ok to pay it.
Have a plan
Research what is it beneficial for you to watch. Make a playlist. Add the links to your notes and only watch what is in your list. You are the master of your time, not the algorithm. So, you have to come up with a system that will allow you to have easy and quick access to your playlists. Think of a few steps or clicks only. If the process of getting to your list of videos will be more than that, you will be sucked in by the algorithms that ensure easy access.
Beware of seduction
The platforms we use daily, like YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok, can be avoided totally. But if it can’t happen due to your work requirements or other reasons, ensure you have a protocol that helps you to react to the algorithm trying to take you in the direction you did not plan. Here is an example.
Imagine you are watching the playlist you have compiled. The platform will make some suggestions to you of similar videos or it “thinks” you might like based on your consumption history. Having a protocol means you know what to do when the algorithm is trying to seduce you into unplanned consumption.
Protocols consist of rules and steps. Here is one you can use in a situation when you see an interesting but unplanned video.
- Resist the urge to watch the video now (even for a minute)
- Add this video to a “Watch later playlist” or a custom playlist. All platforms have a functionality to create custom lists.
- If you added the video into a general “Watch later”, have a habit of weekly reviewing the list and redistributing the videos to custom lists according to the topics.
- Make custom lists easily accessible. For example, add references to your Notes app that is synchronized across your devices.
- Watch the playlists freely. It is your planned content.
Make the best out of it
Don’t just watch. Have a rule to take one or two lessons from each video you watch. This will allow you to be critical of the information you consume in the sense that you will analyse the content that benefits your goals.
Thinking of the next step you will take after watching any video, which is an analysis, will help you not watch to just waste time. You will invest time. But also, you will stop watching a video that is clearly not benefiting you and save your time.
Next steps
Think through the rules and how they benefit you. If you will be able to envision yourself practicing it, it will work for you. If you start without letting this information sink in your head, there will be no conviction for you to abide by these rules. You must convince yourself of why these rules are lifesaving.
And I say “lifesaving” again. Because 5 thousand hours is 228 days. Would you be willing to invest this time wisely? Never watch a video if..
by Kate Koronis | Aug 16, 2025 | Write-up
When the things do not work out you should rejoice. Not because you are delusional. And you don’t see the reality, that, despite all your efforts, things are not working out. But because thanks to you ability to see the fact that things are breaking apart, you can improve dramatically.
What if you would know exactly those things that you need to change to achieve results you aspire?
One or two blind spots. That one thing You don’t see but it is a stumbling stone, and it’s very easy to correct by taking it out of the way.
Would you want to know those blind spots? Would you want to instantly have a key to open the door to your success?
Without getting into situation when things are not going the way you thought they would, we are staying on the plateau of what we have already achieved. We can’t improve. We can’t grow. We can’t change anything.
But when this frustration builds up… This feeling that is eating you from inside keeps you awake at night.. The one you can’t pinpoint it. When this happens, you have got a lucky lottery ticket.
That is the pivotal point!
You have to find it. Because that’s the key!
It will open the door if you only not stop there.
I don’t remember, to be honest, how many times I’ve been in this frustration. Ready to give up. It would be easier to just acknowledge that things didn’t work out, acknowledge that i was not good enough to make things work, and just walk away. Maybe find something new and more interesting to play with.
This time I stayed. I stayed because I’m too ambitious to just give up.
I didn’t always stay. I remember many projects where I only stayed till the moment I had no more energy to move forward.
But not now.
Today I have experience. And I know that if I walk away from this opportunity I will have to go all the way again to stumble upon this presious stone that changes me now.
I am not going to change my trajectory now. The u-turn is not allowed here. Only forward. With pauses. With frustration. And with faith.
I know that I am not good enough because that’s the point to grow. Sometimes people are afraid to acknowledge that they have the room to improve. That is why growth is impossible for them.
There is no need to run from the fact that things don’t go the way we expected. We don’t need to escape the feeling of being lacking something.
Just acknowledge:
- – I lack experience
- – I don’t have some knowledge yet
- – I don’t have skills to apply what I have learned so far.
- – and I am ok!
I rejoice. I rejoice that things are not working out, but I’m still alive, I still move forward, and I will make this thing work. This is my pivotal moment I was waiting for. Bring it on!
by Kate Koronis | Jul 22, 2025 | Write-up
Business and income is all about solving problems. And many of us are good at solving professional problems. Nurses know what to do in an emergency situations, backers know how to organize the mass production of bread, chef knows how to design a gourmet menu, painter knows how to mix colours, banker knows how to manage money.. we know how to be good at work.
What about personal and internal problems? Do you know why people are hiding them instead of solving them? Because they have no idea how to solve them! or they might have an idea but the exact solution is foggy and scary 
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Personal problems, those the others can’t see, most times are those that make us unhappy. We have to do something about that. We can’t keep pretending that we don’t have them. If you have reached this line of the post and agree, give me 
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Of course not only internal problems matter. We are also pressured from all sides to be this and that in this world. Sometimes this pressure from outside and the one we have inside are just tearing us apart. The saddest thing is that it is better not to be too public about your problems. Better not to share because the unpleasant consequences usually follows sincere public sharing 
. Eventually someone will punish you for being honest and open. Right? Feels like a trap.
What if you would have an exact step by step instructions on how to solve any problems you have. Here is just few hints:
1. How to understand what is the real root cause of the problem.
2. How to research and widen your understanding of it.
3. And how to get rid of it finally..
If you would have a clear blueprint on how to achieve that would you do nearly anything to get it?
What if I would say: the solution is stupid simple? You have to write a book about that problem and the solution to it. Write the book for you, not for others. For you to transform your own life. To become a master, designer of your own life with God’s help.
This opportunity presents to you right now. Please attention to what I say here:
You must take control of your life!
by Kate Koronis | Apr 4, 2025 | Write-up
If we rely on society, we might be dumber than we think.
Increasing the range of problems to solve helps us develop the brain. When we specialize in something and do not acquire wider general knowledge, our brain doesn’t need as much power and neurological connections as when we expose ourselves to a greater variety of problems.* As a result, it isn’t as developed. Why? Because general knowledge is outsourced to the community, we specialize in one thing; another person specializes in another. We achieve our goals, but we become less knowledgeable.
There is no risk in being dumb in a successfully developing community if everything goes well. But when society faces a crisis, we need more critical, well-developed minds.
*Joseph Henrich – Humans Defeated Smarter Species With Cultural Evolution
by Kate Koronis | Nov 19, 2024 | Write-up
Nowadays, almost everyone dreams of crowds: people who will follow, be loyal and supportive. From a business perspective, it means to have customers passionate about their products, just like the users of Apple products are.
Crowds mean money. If you don’t use the internet opportunities to make crowds follow you, you might be leaving money on the table. Right?
Well large following does not always mean income, sometimes crowds love to stone the one they admired just an hour ago. Please do not desire Crowds.
If you want your business to prosper. You want a stable stream of income build your business and services with passion. Which passion? The compassion passion!
Here is an example from a history book.. called the Bible.
When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.
From Matthew about Life of Jesus
There is no reason to doubt that Jesus was a genius in creating products, branding and marketing. That is why I love to learn from him. This quote is about his attitude to his clients. If you question why I call people who followed Jesus his clients, you should check the definition of the word. Check out, particularly the Mariam Webster. Let me mention only the etymology: client, clean, lean, where lean is “to rely for support or inspiration”. Clients are those who depend on us.
Yes, Jesus had Clientele. And you will have if you build your business using his principles. One of them is Compassion.
This above quote will not be complete if you have no idea what was after.
Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few.
From Matthew about Life of Jesus
To serve his clients, Jesus had to travel quite a while. He even said that he had no place to put his head to sleep. So intense was the schedule that sometimes he couldn’t find a hotel or room. Still he was compassionate to his clientele who were not able to get his service because there was a scarcity of time and people who could attend to those in need.
The harvest is plentiful if you are compassionate enough to see it.
You are not compassionate if you worry that no one needs your product. You started from the wrong side. Start with the needs first and then you will see how people will gather around you. Be not interested in Crowds but in their needs and you will see that those needs will be taken care of by God in you. Because he is Compassionate.
