Although this things are nice to hear and readers will appreciate for a short time. Once people will start to understand that it is a cookie cutter they will stop respecting you as an author.
Try replacing these phrases with other creative forms of speech.
Especially avoid using it in books. Find your own voice for the book. I have more to share on my book writing training that you should join. I am serious.
You have so much value inside and you just can’t put it out and make it public. Familiar?
Having value to share doesn’t always translate into knowing how to do it. But if you know, it still doesn’t mean you will start sharing.
Sharing you knowledge and wisdom publicly connected to more than being eloquent or social media literate. In this post I will cover key aspects that might stop you from starting to influence the public.
1. Let’s start with the goal. It is not possible to arrive to the desirable destination if you don’t know what do you want. You need to find the target you are trying to hit. Otherwise just like Alise in Wonderland you will hear : if you don’t know where do you want to get, then any road you take is correct. Thus, we start with the destination. And it is not that simple. That’s what stops the most.
2. Organized, structured thoughts, packaged ideas. If your ideas are not prepared for the audience to hear, then most probably you will have a very little impact. I know of a person who has taped into a controversial topic and instantly gained 100k subs on TikTok. However, this topic was not the one that was the person wanted to be known for, and he got stuck with audience that only wanted to hear him ruminating around the same thing. They did not come for what he could give and they don’t want to stay for what he wants to say. So having organized ideas corresponding with your goal, is what will make you happy to keep going.
3. Only on this stage you will need tools. Lots of information on how to do this and that is what you need. How to produce attractive video, how to create strategic transformation plan and educational materials, to push your message and initiate the change you wanted to bring to the society.
But this number 3 point is a trap if you can’t manage the number 4.
4. Discipline. I hated discipline but I found the way to work in a disciplined manner. You will also have to figure out your routine and pase that will lead you to result. The discipline is needed to stick to this routine for a long time. The discipline won’t work if you don’t figure out the number 5.
5. Work through the internal blocks. If you are over 22 y.o and still not where you are in terms of influence, despite wanting it, or thinking a out it.. it is because there are some internal blocks you need to overcome. Because if it was not for those stops you would open any door you wanted by now. You will have to meet yourself and have a serious talks. You might need to involve a professional too.
6. If you have all 5 then you just need patience, because it is not gonna happen fast. Everyone has their own time of arrival. It is not like you can hop on a bus and be there according to schedule. The life will throw one or two surprises which you will have to deal with. Everyone deals, and you are not going to be an exception. Something will distract you, or even stop you totally. It depends on your perseverance if you will stand up and keep moving.
7. The last point is for the sake of having 7 points because it looks nice. Nevertheless it is a useful tip I wish I would be told earlier. Your outcomes, your results, whether you will get to your destination or not depend on the speed you will choose. Choose wisely:
Too slow – you will lose interest. Most probably you will be so distracted that the dream will feel like just a dream, so far, that you will even forget you had it.
Too fast – you will burn out and constantly run out of resources. Continuous stress will have impact on all areas of your life. At some point you will have to choose something else over your dream: relationships, health or job … Because you have pushed too much. Before you start building sit and count whether you will be able to finish.
No wonder you have so many things inside of you and you just can’t put it out, make it shine and glow. Because deep inside, subconsciously you know about most of those points. That’s why you are where you are.
Do you know that I was in your shoes for 10 years. Despite having lots of ideas, solutions and passion to bring transformation to the society I live in I could not organized myself to release powerful content. Whether it was about YouTube channel or book writing the reason to postpone is the same.
Somewhere deep inside you is something that sabotages your attempts. And although the world is waiting patiently for you to reveal yourself you keep finding temporary and urgent things to do, that will never lead you to publishing
No I don’t say you haven’t published anything! Maybe something! Maybe sometimes.. as often as it was necessary to calm your inner self down and not worry about wasting time on temporarily appearebces here and there. You do publish something, but not what will stand boldly, proudly and unapologetically in the head of the corner.
Why you haven’t put the cornerstone of what you are called to do: TO INFLUENCE BIG TIME ?
Because there is a quiet whisper in your heart saying: you are not ready, they will judge you performance, you can’t publish whatever, it has to be perfect!
And there you sit with nothing! Or you enjoy a little of the cake crumbles..
It is time to shine and be put at the head of the corner!
I remember last year I made a live broadcast about Social Media Content plan and people were disappointed. The topic turned out to be very attractive and many responded. But when I said that content plan starts with your product, which is the CONTENT of your persona, your depth and your personality net value, some people disconnected from the call.
The truth is: you have to develop the depth inside of you to be able to project it into outside. Otherwise you will have to chase the trends and will eventually burn out
Writing books is easier nowadays, but writing unique books is not.
Anyone can take a course on how to write a book in a couple of days and publish a decent self-help genre book. It will be really helpful to readers, it will instantly take your authority to the next level, but it won’t make you an author “defacto”. In this article I will give you an insight on how to write unique books with your own thoughts and an assistance of AI.
How to write a book that actually transforms someone’s life?
Have you ever asked this question?
You see, many people today are writing books. Especially in the era of AI you can write a book even if you can’t put two words together in conversation. But is it going to be just another book that gets 0 reviews on Amazon?
Do we really want to have a dead book in our arsenal? Or do we want to have books that are turning tables? That’s what I want to write. I don’t want to be an average author, one more pretender.
What I want to do is invent new concepts, create new innovative approaches, and mix the best practices in unpredictable ways.
I want to write books that change every reader, including me!
Books that get stuck in readers’ minds! Forever!
I have read books like that; they still live in my head. They are the basis of my life. And I don’t want to write any other books than those that do the same to my readers.
If you have nothing, you are in a good place. The place where God started creating our world.
For the last two years, I have been perfecting my 20-to-the-top training that helps people to become public figures from 0!
What was not working for me is that the training takes time.. like months and even more than a year. And I could not onboard people on it any time I wanted, because every step is connected with the previous one.
For example, you can’t run the YouTube channel successfully without understanding scripting.. You learn the basics of scripting in the section focusing on Social Media Content. You can’t record your course without understanding the problem solutions methodology, which is part of the Product Design course of the same program.. and it turned out to be a bottleneck for me, not allowing me to take in new students.
But now I have figured out: since any step is connected to another one, the program should run in a cycle.. so people can onboard at any stage.. For example, in September, we start book writing. Why not onboarding at this stage and learn the rest later?
Are you getting me? You can board with any new module every 2 or 3 months! I think this is genius, as usual
Business and income is all about solving problems. And many of us are good at solving professional problems. Nurses know what to do in an emergency situations, backers know how to organize the mass production of bread, chef knows how to design a gourmet menu, painter knows how to mix colours, banker knows how to manage money.. we know how to be good at work.
What about personal and internal problems? Do you know why people are hiding them instead of solving them? Because they have no idea how to solve them! or they might have an idea but the exact solution is foggy and scary .
Personal problems, those the others can’t see, most times are those that make us unhappy. We have to do something about that. We can’t keep pretending that we don’t have them. If you have reached this line of the post and agree, give me .
Of course not only internal problems matter. We are also pressured from all sides to be this and that in this world. Sometimes this pressure from outside and the one we have inside are just tearing us apart. The saddest thing is that it is better not to be too public about your problems. Better not to share because the unpleasant consequences usually follows sincere public sharing . Eventually someone will punish you for being honest and open. Right? Feels like a trap.
What if you would have an exact step by step instructions on how to solve any problems you have. Here is just few hints:
1. How to understand what is the real root cause of the problem.
2. How to research and widen your understanding of it.
3. And how to get rid of it finally..
If you would have a clear blueprint on how to achieve that would you do nearly anything to get it?
What if I would say: the solution is stupid simple? You have to write a book about that problem and the solution to it. Write the book for you, not for others. For you to transform your own life. To become a master, designer of your own life with God’s help.
This opportunity presents to you right now. Please attention to what I say here:
You must take control of your life!
You might not yet know how this chapter fits into your overall life mission, but don’t close the book just because this page is painful
I said to myself: hey Kate, give yourself a break because that’s not your best day today, you have done enough. My energy was loooow.
So I did what everyone does – opened YouTube and started scrolling.
Boom – this title pops: “3 Keys to Be CONSISTENT on Social Media.”
And I’m like, “Sure, FIX ME”
I haven’t posted for ages.
But let’s be honest:
Consistency doesn’t even exist in real life.
Fluctuations. Mood swings. Energy crashes. Existential crises.
The only thing consistent… is being inconsistent.
Felt like the most consistent decision I could make was to keep scrolling.
You see, there are no 3 keys to Consistency on social media, there should be a whole system that might contain dozens of keys. Not 3, not 4 and even not 5.
Although I agree that consistency is important for social media, but also the mental health is important. So for me consistency starts with not just having a daily schedule of posting or a weekly YouTube release, but a steady movement towards your influence goal with clear understanding of your capacity. When you have such a goal then you can develop a strategic plan for your social media, that will include not burning out. Those 3 key will be somewhere there inside the system.
If I look back 20 years, in my early adult years I could not stay at one job for more than 3 months. It was boring. It felt like an eternity. I could not bare it. Staying working in the same place was making me unhappy.
Later in life I have figured out why it was. I needed novelty to function properly. New place and challenges kept me alert, organized, focused and productive. I acually have managed to work with one company for 5,5 years and it was my highest record then. I was able to achieve it only because I could change the activities within this period every 3 month: take a new project, work on new challenge.
If you feel like this is you it is a high probablity that you are also dependent on novelty. It is not simply a character or pecuiarity. It is a need, because it helps you regulate your executive abilities.
One of the resons I have settled with creating digital products in my life is that it is one-time investment activity with minimum further obligations. That is not about passive income or some kind of becoming reach easy scheme. It is about being free of obligation to be present on the job continiously for a long period of time.
And that is why it is important for you to figure out if this thing is for you.
For people like us entrepreneurship is very attractive. But only the kind of entrepreneurship that do not bond us. We need a constant change.
This is where the digital products production comes in.
Always remember that if you want to start this journey and create courses, write books and make impact through educational content, I am here to guide you through it with a system that is constantly improving.
Wherever you are working now, wishing you a great upcoming week. And I hope you will not sleep well thinking of what I have just said ) haha.
People with ADHD are naturally impulsive and that is why they can easily start any project without delay when inspired. If they are inspired.
What can inspire is the novelty or urgency. That is why when someone asks for help we are ready to jump in the task right away putting aside what ever we were doing. Because of the spike of dopamine and epinefrine we do deal with task fast. But there are some downsides:
– we struggle to come back to what ever we were doing before and sometimes it was not less important
– we don’t sit and cound if we can perform this task now or how to manage the tasks if it is gonna take longer. With longer tasks there will be no more spikes of dopamine epinefrine.
As a result low effectiveness and burn out.
I prefer pushing the task into the pipeline. The tasks sits and waits for the time of MUSE. While some people say you don’t have to wait for a MUSE, I discovered that it is the most effective time and energy management.
Waiting on MUSE does not mean actually waiting the weather. The bible says that the person who looks at the clouds and wind will not have results. However when you know when exactly the MUSE will come it becomes a totally different question.
When does MUSE come: when all stars meet ))).
You must know your cycles.
Women in active menstrual life can rely on the resourses related to fluctuations of hormones in each of the phases of the cycle because they are heavily impacting the work on neurotransmitters which effects our capacity to perform different tasks. Not that women can’t do any task any time, but that at different cycle it takes different efforts.
I come from a family with codependency dynamics. What it means: I tend to save.
I save people from their mistakes.
I save people from wasting time.
I save people from losing opportunities.
I save their business from perishing.
I save them from losing money.
I save, I worry too much about their success.
People who grew up in families where addicted people were usually adopting coping mechanisms to survive in an unhealthy environment. To keep your head above water, you have to fix the situation all the time.
This reaction to the circumstances is not a healthy one, because it doesn’t leave a choice to an addicted person to do what they please with their life. If they want to destroy their lives, they have to be free to do it. But.
But then the codependent family member comes and does not allow the addicted one to reach the bottom.
This way, people grow up and later try to save everyone outside of their family, too. It takes time to figure out that some people just don’t want your help.
In many cases, when people come to the coach, they are not ready for changes, they resist improvement, and they sabotage success.
As a person coming from a codependent relationship, I tend to forget that saving someone is a survival mechanism, it’s control. Sometimes you just have to let people destroy themselves. Even as a business coach, if this is what they want.
The art and experience of the coach is to allow them to do it. And I have learnt this art.
When trying to understand any topic, I usually start with an understanding of the definition of the word or phrase.
The phrasal verb follow-through, according to the Collins Dictionary, is “something that completes an action or a planned series of actions”.
The reason I have chosen Collins Dictionary out of many is for the following explanation of this verb that clicks something in me and lightens the path to understanding the issue.
Collins Dictionary Explanation: “If you follow through an action, plan, or idea or follow through with it, you continue doing or thinking about it until you have done everything possible.”
In animation world follow-through is animation of the character’s movement till the end.
The ability to do what is necessary until you have done everything possible is the key indicator of whether people can follow through with things or not.
I think about this because following through presents the greatest challenge for most of my students.
My first large group coaching included 20 people. Only few followed through. There is a room for development.
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. Eventually someone will punish you for being honest and open. Right? Feels like a trap.
“3 Keys to Be CONSISTENT on Social Media.”
I haven’t posted for ages.